six reminders for bad times
REPEAT AFTER ME: SAM DOES NOT HAVE TO “RESPECT” THE PERSON WHO VIOLATED HIS BODILY AUTONOMY AND HAD HIM FORCIBLY POSSESSED WITHOUT HIS KNOWLEDGE BY A SENTIENT BEING WHO WIPED HIS MEMORY, RIFLED THROUGH HIS BRAIN, AND SAPPED HIM OF HIS ABILITY TO HEAL.
SAM WAS A VICTIM OF DEAN’S ACTIONS. YOU ARE BLAMING A VICTIM FOR NOT ~*~*~*~RESPECTING*~*~*~*~ THEIR PERPETRATOR.
sam does not have to “respect” dean when dean not only did that but refused to apologize for it and when sam attempted to draw boundaries (i.e. “no dean i will not violate you to save your life”) DEAN THEN PROCEEDED TO GUILT SAM FOR DOING SO
holy disgusting shitty shitty piece of shitty crap victim blaming mother of god batman
On the contrary, my friend, this is actually a very handy guide to the Dean Winchester Terms and Conditions for Basic Human Dignity.
(1) You are allowed to take up space. You are a human.*
*If you are the wrong kind of human, said space is locked in a hole in the ground, where you will be left to die. But hey, SPACE.
(2) You are allowed to have a voice.*
*Granted, if you use your voice to say something about your own experience that someone else doesn’t like, said voice will be ignored as condescendingly as possible, because they know better than you do that it’s “just how you feel right now.”
(3) You are allowed to leave whenever you feel unsafe or uncomfortable*
*You are also liable to be tracked down, assaulted in your own home, and guilt tripped forever for having left a situation where you felt unsafe and/or uncomfortable.
(4) You deserve more than someone who doesn’t know how to respect you.*
*You may not, under any circumstances, try to explain to someone else “how to respect you.” If you try to specify that having your medical wishes overruled, being stripped of ownership of your own mind and body, and/or being gaslit for months about these violations does not constitute “respect,” you forfeit all rights herein specified.
(5)(a) You are allowed to put your own needs first.*
*If those needs make someone else uncomfortable, you may be subject to physically and psychologically risky procedures including enforced isolation.
(5)(b) You are allowed to put your own needs first.*
*Unless what you need is to grieve and let go of someone that you quite reasonably believe to be dead.
(5)(c) You are allowed to put your own needs first.*
*The “need” to be free from such violations as listed in part (4) does not constitute a legitimate need, while the need to be speedily and sufficiently coddled over having perpetrated such violations does.
(6) You are allowed to love yourself.*
Unless loving yourself involves making Dean Winchester uncomfortable in such instances, including, but not limited to, those listed above. Then go fuck yourself.